That meant, if I was going to stay fit and healthy, I had to be with someone who is also fit and healthy. I realized that my partner influences my eating and exercise habits. I gained it back, then lost 90 pounds a few years ago. At 19, I lost 70 pounds and the next five years were the fittest time of my life. I have struggled with my weight since I was a teenager.
I think the only thing you can do, OP, is to either accept him for how he is, the diabetic, non-veggie eating fattie, or you can leave. I don't understand why he doesn't love himself enough to take care of himself. Aging has been a great wakeup call for me about the importance of maintaining my health. I'm his boyfriend and not his therapist and I don't want to make demands of him but how can he not see how destructive he is.īy the way, I'm not thin or a jock and I've been struggling with my weight since turning 13. I promised myself that I would never scold or lecture him but it's really painful to see him do this to himself. He doesn't talk about it but my impression is that he's had diabetes for well over 20 years. He's diabetic and refuses to eat vegetables and fruits or do even moderate exercise.
I can accept his weight because that's part of who he is but it troubles me that he's using food to slowly kill himself. We've been seeing each other for about a month and new issues have emerged. I'm enormously fond of this man and think he is a wonderful person. At that time, I was trying to deal with my initial aversion to his appearance. I posted a month ago when this fellow first asked me out.